I Hope You Dance

“Energy flows where intention goes.”

You bet it does. Now, read that a few more times and let it sink in. Whether we believe it or not, over the course of our day, week, year, and ultimately life, we have the power to live with intention.

What does this mean? Well, an intention is a belief or a mindset that we carry with us that truly sets the tone for our experiences. 

We truly are what we think about. And this means that we have a choice. That is a wonderful gift that we have as human beings: the gift to choose what we focus on and what we do with our time. The sooner you realize that your life was meant to be lived for a purpose, the sooner it is that you can go about finding what that purpose is, and then actually go about the business of doing it.

But, we can’t do any of that without intention. It is the start of a brand new year- heck it is the start of a new freaking decade! How cool is that? When I think back to the beginning of this past decade I was nine years old. Nine! Now, when I think about the end of the next decade, I will be on the cusp on my thirtieth birthday. Woah- what a way to put things into perspective! And what is even more remarkable, is the fact that so much can happen in a decade. So much can happen in a year. And honestly, it is not always about the amount of time, but what you do with the time that makes it truly extraordinary, beautiful, and purposeful. 

New Year’s intentions can be words or phrases. Let me share with you what my intention for 2020 is: Dance. Well, not in the way you might think. I don’t literally mean I want to dance in 2020 (although I always do love to at any chance I get despite my lack of skills). This intention came to me on New Years day as I sat looking out at the ocean ~my favorite place~. In the car on the way there the song “I Hope You Dance” by Lee Ann Womack came on the radio. While I have always found this song incredibly moving, it had never rung as true to me as it did on that day. Lee Ann states,

“I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,

whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,

give the heavens above more than just a passing glance, 

and when you get the choice to sit it out or dance….I hope you dance”. 

By dance, Lee Ann means to live fully in every experience, to choose to enthusiastically participate in life, and to live your life as if it really matters. Because trust me, it does.

Your intention may be as simple as a word. It could be a phrase. It could be inspired by a song, a poem, quote, someone you admire. It could even be a specific goal. Maybe it is to live a healthier lifestyle, maybe it is to spend more time with the people who matter most. Maybe it is finally believing in yourself, or loving yourself a little bit more. Whatever it is, make it personal to you. Make it something that will stick, even if it is something as silly as “Dance”. It is a simple word that I remind myself of every day when I wake up, and think about when the day is done. Have I chosen to dance today, or did I sit it out? 

Intention setting is not supposed to be stressful. In fact, It is supposed to be everything but that. Think of one thing that you want more of in your life. Make it fun, make it stick. Write it on your mirror, your journal, tape it to the gosh darn refrigerator. Whatever it takes to remember it. An intention without repetition is just a thought. 

And, I would be remiss if I didn’t end with this- I just have to say- there is one more inspiration behind my choice of the word “dance”. Jennifer Lopez’s song, “Dance Again”, is one that without fail, always pumps me up. And it is NOT because of her riskay lyrics in the beginning, but rather her declaration to “dance, and love, and dance again”. Like living as if you are dancing with abandon. (see me pictured above excitedly waiting outside her concert this past summer). Isn’t that what life’s about? Taking in every moment?

Find the humor and lightness, and the deep and the profound in each day. The magic lies in all of it. 

P.S. Stay tuned this Friday for my Inspired story of the month, where I will feature someone who has inspired me and in turn, I know, will inspire you.

🙂 Paige

Take A Deep Breath…It’s All Good!

Take a Deep Breath….It’s all good! 

So as I was deciding what I wanted my first post to be about, I knew I wanted to start with a foundational idea. The only way we can learn to apply advice and insight into our life is if we can prime our mind and thoughts to be receptive to them. It is one thing to learn about philosophies, advice, and tips on how to live an empowered life, and it is another to implement them. It’s like holding the key without opening the door. You’ve got to open the freaking door!

I was recently listening to a podcast featuring Motivational Speaker Les Brown. He was talking about the difference between a fixed mindset- that is, the belief that who we are now: what we know, our talents, our relationships, finances, etc. are as developed as they will get. A closing-off of new possibilities so to speak. He also mentioned that 98 % of our thoughts are repeats of the thoughts we had the day before! And to make this even more shocking, is the fact that on average 80% of those thoughts are negative….Huh! I would call that a pretty limited belief system if you ask me. What separates those who pursue their goals and live purposefully, as opposed to those who do not, is their mindset. Now, the opposite of a fixed mindset, is a growth mindset, meaning a belief system that we as humans are constantly growing and expanding. It allows people to live with a sense of wonder, curiosity, and confidence. Ultimately allowing them to live to their highest potential. Don’t we all want that? Well, good news! You CAN have that!

Everyone, regardless of circumstance can develop a growth mindset. If our emotions and experiences are primarily determined by our perception of our own life, then there you have it. The power lies in YOU. Only you can change your mindset. Don’t get me wrong- this is not always easy. Yes, life does get in the way sometimes, and this is not about being positive all the time- that’s just not in our human nature! But what we can do, is develop the trait and the habit of living in a state of growth, possibility, and positivity rather than negativity and static. Our minds physically change when we change our thoughts. Limiting beliefs about ourselves and the world around us have been deeply etched into our brain for as long as we have been thinking them. But, if we change them, new neural pathways will literally be created and the new beliefs and thoughts will become default.

“Sounds great, but how do I start to do this??” you may be wondering. While it may sound complicated, it truly is quite simple. It is a matter of looking at your life currently. Right now. What are the things you want to do with the rest of your life? Do you want to be healthier, happier, calmer, wealthier, start a career, etc. etc.? First, you need to start with what the beliefs are about yourself that are holding you back. The next step is facing them head on, because we can’t change them if we don’t acknowledge them. With time and practice, you will start to see that all that you want is possible. And to be honest, life is not a dress rehearsal. Take a deep breath and let that sink in. We are given one shot at it….it is our responsibility to make it count. 

Thank you for joining me this week! Next week, we will discuss the power of setting intentions. It is still just the start of a new year- new decade in fact! What are ways you know how to set intentions to make them stick? See you next week! Sign up to subscribe to this blog to get updates delivered directly to your email each week- just go to bottom of the “A Paige From My Book” title page!

🙂 Paige